Adam answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”
And God said, “Who told you that you were naked? …
I had a really great opportunity to take a little online class about speaking life to myself. Before the class started I was thinking it may not really be something that would really pertain to me, but it would be something nice to listen to while I worked.
I would describe myself as a positive person. I don’t go around feeling down generally or carrying the weight of feeling like I’m not good enough and I figured “speaking truth to yourself” was for people who were more like that, who needed to hear that they can do hard things and they are good enough. Oh y’all, this class was so much more than that and I am so glad that I tuned in so I can share with you some of the things I took from it. Hopefully it stirs your heart the way it has been stirring mine.
First of all, what are we saying to ourselves that God didn’t say to us?
My legs are huge.
I’m a horrible mom.
I’m not a good leader.
I am the worst wife.
My students deserve a better teacher.
I am too introverted for this.
I literally cannot clean my house.
I am a hot mess.
I’ll never be as smart as her.
I will never make that much money.
I’ll never have good friends.
I cannot cook.
Who told you this stuff? Did God say that to you? Or are you claiming it for yourself? Just like Adam and Eve in the garden were carrying the weight of the shame of being naked and God says “Who told you that?” because y’all, God isn’t in the business of shame, or lies, or speaking untruth. Adam and Eve were perfect because God made them perfect. He didn’t tell them they were naked, he told them He loved them, He cherished their company, he CREATED them in HIS IMAGE, perfectly and wonderfully.
God Himself had you in mind before the beginning of time (think on that for a second). You, just the way you are, He knew you, He knows you, He thinks you’re fantastic. Every. Single. Bit. of you. Not just the outside parts, but the inside parts too. You can take every personality test on the internet. You can tell yourself over and over that you are an INFJ, scorpio, who like acts of service, and were born in the year of the rat, but unless GOD tells you those things are true about you then move along in TRUTH.
So friends, how do we practically speak truth to ourselves and to the people we love? Take those lies that we are telling ourselves and find a truth about God to combat it with. Get praisy about it. and listen. I’m no bible scholar. Plenty of times something comes up with myself or a friend and my thoughts are literally, “um, I know the bible says something about this somewhere but I’m not sure where to find it right now.” Anyone with me on this? (oh, I’m alone, thanks)
If You Don’t Know The Truth Just Know That He Is Good.
(can I get an amen?)
Let’s play this out for a second. So, I step out of the shower and catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror, and immediately my thoughts are negative. What can I do to speak life in that very moment?
“Thank you god for making me fearfully and wonderfully.” “Thank you for giving me a body that can run and jump and play.” “Thank you for the opportunity to carry and deliver two perfectly healthy and beautiful baby boys.” “Thank you for forming me all the way down to the hairs on my head”
Another scenario….You’re at work. Your coworkers are on your very last nerve. Your list of things to do is towering and you feel incredibly under appreciated so you put your head down on your desk in surrender.
“Thank you Lord for this job.” “Thank you for the influence you have given me over these people I work with.” “Thank you for being sovereign in my workplace.” “Thank you for equipping me with everything I need to get these things done.”
And listen, sometimes its bad. Sometimes you need someone else to speak life for you. Can we be that for one another? If you hear a friend saying. “I just can’t…, I’m just not cut out for…, I don’t think I…” Can we stop them and say “who told you that? Did God tell you that? ” Can you speak life over them and into their situation? (loving and graciously of course) Let’s be people that speak life.
When you’re standing in your kitchen with your white knuckles gripping the counter and you are ready to throw in the towel let’s choose together to speak life in moments like those. “God you are good, I may not feel it now, but I remember all those things you’ve done and I trust you.”
If you need some actual bible verses for some good ol’ truth here are some that I took from my class. (I’m not all about taking random bible verses and sticking them where I want them to apply, but these are good ones that do apply to who you are and who HE is.)
Do me a favor and just click all of those links for all of those verses and read them over yourself today. Can we believe He is who He says He is? Can we believe who He says we are?
I want to make something really clear before I wrap up. This isn’t a post about positive “self-talk.” I’m not going to look in the mirror and say “You are beautiful, You are a great mom, You rock at life.” Because saying those things makes it about me, and it isn’t about me. It’s about Jesus. “Thank you Jesus for creating me just the way you wanted to, Thank you for choosing me as the perfect mom for my kids. God, please get glory from the things I do and say today.”
Can we try this together? I am going to practice this as much as I can. I want it to change the way I think and pray and live and mother, and friend, and bake, and wife, and clean, and comfort, and drive.
And let me know if you have lies you know you’re telling yourself and I’ll try and speak some life over you too. Because I love you, and because Jesus loves you way more.